Tuesday, December 4, 2012


I would like to personally welcome you all back to Father Faction. It has been an incredible ride over the past year. I have moved from Englewood NJ, relocated to Santa Fe New Mexico, had a homebirth of a healthy baby girl named Hahnah, soaked in hot springs on the banks of the Rio Grande, met some extremely cool people, moutain climbed, washed my hair in the river....Let's just say a whole lot of firsts this year.

I want to thank everyone who has liked us and followed us in our hiatus. So now, I would like to get some opinions on this poem that has been circulating and getting a good response. Personally, from an ideal perspective, I totally get it. From a "world we live in" perspective I work to apply the essence of the poem. What do you think? Can it work? What does it mean to you?


Your children are not your children;

They are the sons and daughters life
longing for itself

They come through you but not from you,
Though they are with you they're not possessions

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls live in the house of tomorrow,
Which you cannot visit, even in your dreams

You may strive to to be like them,
But seek not to make them like you
For life goes backward and lingers not with yesterday

You are the bows from which your children,
As living arrows are cast forth

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the Infinite,
And God Himself fills you with His Might that His
Arrows may go swift and far

Kahlil Gibran

Friday, May 13, 2011

Father Faction Feminist Fridays

Perhaps the single most important movement in the history of America. The Feminist Movement. This Movement changed the face of parenting, business, and the social landscape forever! Feel free to chime in with your thoughts for now. Father Faction will be spending the majority of next week examining this interesting phenomena.

Friday, May 6, 2011

I'll Always Love My Mama by The Intruders

Thanks to all the Moms out there. We wouldn't be here or have children without ya!

Monday, May 2, 2011

Mojo Mondays

Ok my good comrades in Father Faction time for some real talk about a real subject. That subject would be loss of mojo after marriage and or being a father for a few years. The rut has settled in.....the routine is established and you are in full fledge frump mode. Now I am not saying routine is bad, I think it can actually be good for setting discipline firmly in your life, however, you must know how to break the routine to bring back some level of excitement. When you begin to introduce variety into your day you will see that you will begin. Here are the top ways to put the Magic back into your Mojo, The Swagger into you Step:

1) Work out - when you look in the mirror and see good muscle tone, when you reach in your pocket and see a protruding tricep muscle you can't help but feel good.

2) Spend money on yourself - lets face it, when you have children, sometimes they get the bulk of the expendable cash. I have seen some parents whose children have on the latest fashion and Dad is wearing a pair of Pumas from '86.

3) Flirt with your wife or significant other - doing this will feed your male ego...period. But be careful....it could lead to more children!!!!!!!!!!

4)Eat more peanuts - Food items like peanuts and broccoli have great testosterone producing capabilities for the body. When you couple the right foods with working out...you could develop into the MAN you used to be.

5)Mental Conditioning - It is one thing to work your body but you must remember that the brain is a muscle too so learn something new. It could be a skill or a fact or a shortcut home even. To show the positive effect this can have just look at your children. When children learn something new, their face lights up and they tell everyone what they just learned, and they talk about it over and over and over. We can learn alot form them if we slow down and pay attention.

Friday, April 29, 2011

The Most Famous Father and Son Moment in Cinematic History

Classic! This scene epitomizes some father son relationships. A constant battle of wills but with the same goal just different ways of going about it.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Babies and Fathers - Funny Clips!!

I know the feeling brother..... I know the feeling! Salute for your efforts Dads!! Enjoy your weekend! MAN UP!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Baby Wearing Wednesdays

Baby wearing is a big thing in the American parenting community, however, it is nothing new to indigenous cultures such as many African, Asian, and other "third world" cultures. In my understanding, the children in these cultures tend to be more mature and well adjusted to their society than children in cultures which are more technologically advanced. I believe that in many instances, technology decreases the human touch and compassion that is innate in the human spirit, and this is translated into their parenting style.

Nonetheless, I am very glad to see that American parents have begun to understand the importance of craddling and holding the child instead of the antiquated perspective of "self - soothing." In self soothing, it is recommended that the parent allow the child to cry until the baby stops. Imagine that you lost the ability to speak or use hand gestures to express yourself, and are in deep need of something and no one is coming to your aid. Imagine the frustration and bitterness you would feel toward people and your environment on a subconscious level. The same is for babies, in my opinion, who are taught to self soothe.

I as a father carry my children on my back with a thick piece of fabric or in a sling wrap. It soothes them in a way that is almost unexplainable and creates a love between us that is forever.

Here are the benefits of babywearing from askdrsears.com

Sling babies cry less. Parents in my practice commonly report, "As long as I wear her, she's content!" Parents of fussy babies who try babywearing relate that their babies seem to forget to fuss. This is more than just my own impression. In 1986, a team of pediatricians in Montreal reported on a study of ninety-nine mother-infant pairs. The first group of parents were provided with a baby carrier and assigned to carry their babies for at least three extra hours a day. They were encouraged to carry their infants throughout the day, regardless of the state of the infant, not just in response to crying or fussing. In the control, or noncarried group, parents were not given any specific instructions about carrying. After six weeks, the infants who received supplemental carrying cried and fussed 43 percent less than the noncarried group.

2. Sling babies learn more. If infants spend less time crying and fussing, what do they do with the free time? They learn! Sling babies spend more time in the state of quiet alertness . This is the behavioral state in which an infant is most content and best able to interact with his environment. It may be called the optimal state of learning for a baby. Researchers have also reported that carried babies show enhanced visual and auditory alertness.

The behavioral state of quiet alertness also gives parents a better opportunity to interact with their baby. Notice how mother and baby position their faces in order to achieve this optimal visually interactive plane. The human face, especially in this position, is a potent stimulator for interpersonal bonding. In the kangaroo carry, baby has a 180-degree view of her environment and is able to scan her world. She learns to choose, picking out what she wishes to look at and shutting out what she doesn't. This ability to make choices enhances learning. A sling baby learns a lot in the arms of a busy caregiver.

3. Sling babies are more organized. It's easier to understand babywearing when you think of a baby's gestation as lasting eighteen months – nine months inside the womb and at least nine more months outside. The womb environment automatically regulates baby's systems. Birth temporarily disrupts this organization. The more quickly, however, baby gets outside help with organizing these systems, the more easily he adapts to the puzzle of life outside the womb. By extending the womb experience, the babywearing mother (and father) provides an external regulating system that balances the irregular and disorganized tendencies of the baby. Picture how these regulating systems work. Mother's rhythmic walk, for example, (which baby has been feeling for nine months) reminds baby of the womb experience. This familiar rhythm, imprinted on baby's mind in the womb, now reappears in the "outside womb" and calms baby. As baby places her ear against her mother's chest, mother's heartbeat, beautifully regular and familiar, reminds baby of the sounds of the womb. As another biological regulator, baby senses mother's rhythmic breathing while worn tummy- to-tummy, chest-to-chest. Simply stated, regular parental rhythms have a balancing effect on the infant's irregular rhythms. Babywearing "reminds" the baby of and continues the motion and balance he enjoyed in the womb.